Tools for Navigating Transitions in Your Family and Your Life
A blog for parents, families, and individuals going through life transitions
10 Thoughts about How to Talk to Kids about Divorce
I can ask any one of my younger clients about the day they found out about their parent's divorce and they can recall the most bizarre details. Often they remember what they are wearing, what they were doing right before they were told, where they sat when they were told, and the exact date and time. Let’s just say THIS moment will be a monumental day in their lives. One they will never forget. Why? Because it is traumatic for kids and marks the end of their family as they knew it. It is important to be mindful of that. Therefore, do not plan to tell them around holidays, birthdays, or special times to forever tarnish those days. Try and pick a pretty obscure day
Coparenting: How to handle drop off/pick ups and schedules
Coparenting through your first transfers of your children with your coparent can be one of the most painful times of life. You didn't expect this or necessarily want it, but there goes your child in their car and now you sit alone. Sometimes you can still hear your child crying or laughing.... And you just sit in your car or at your home and weep. I want to remind you it will not always be like this. You will find hope again. Divorce is not the final answer to your family. Hope can be found again! As a Coparenting Counselor, one of the most difficult and frustrating issues for coparents is often transitions (drop offs/pick ups) and schedule making and changes.
10 Tips for Coparents from a Coparenting Counselor
Coparenting Counseling will not heal the pain and hurt YOU FEEL from your divorce. You will need to do your own recovery and therapy for that to happen (and I hope that you do!), but Coparenting Counseling can be helpful in building a new relationship with your coparent. For kids of divorce, they have enough pain to deal with just getting over their family ending. Adding constant fighting to that pain is just not fair. For their sake, I urge you to get help if you need it, so your kids learn that divorce is NOT the final word to their family, as they knew it. There is hope for a new future and while their parents are no longer married they can get along, so everyone can move forward and have a better future.
How CAN Custodial Parents Support Non-Custodial Parents? (Part 2)
Perspective in our circumstances is everything, especially in coparenting. For the custodial and non-custodial parent each position comes with its unique challenges and often times we can only see our perspective. However, having knowledge of the other's perspective can help change our perspective.
How CAN Non-Custodial Parents support Custodial Parents? (Part 1)
The temptation in coparenting is to believe that the grass is always greener on the other side and all the crap is in YOUR part of the pasture. The reality is that coparenting is hard on either side of the fence as a custodial or non-custodial parent. A custodial parent has the most physical time with the child and cares for the child in regard to the day-to-day decisions. A non-custodial parent is one who does not have primary physical custody but can still have legal rights and should play an important part in their life.
5 tips on how to treat coparenting like a business!
Coparenting after a divorce can be an ugly process that can bring out the worst in people. Divorce is a process that breeds selfishness and bitterness. It is no wonder that as you go through a divorce communicating with your former spouse can only get harder and harder. That is why treating your former spouse, as a new business partner may be just what you need for your kids to thrive in your new co-parenting relationship.